KMC 2) - "TRUST" (Part 2)

Key Mentorship Characteristics (KMC) - "TRUST" (Part 2)

We invited our friends and readers to add their perspective on the role of “TRUST” in Mentorship ...

We asked:

•       What is the role of TRUST within a mentoring relationship?

•       What does TRUST mean to you?

•       How is TRUST developed between the mentoring partners?

This post continues with the second in the series of BLOG posts related to Key Characteristics found within Healthy Mentoring Relationships. Please enjoy these great comments that are provided from experts and participants within mentoring relationships. We also have additional comments that have been received and they will be posted separately in order to keep them intact for your benefit and reading pleasure.

* IN THIS POST:
Prof David Clutterbuck,  David Clutterbuck Partnership (United Kingdom)

Maatje Stamp-Vincent - Executive Director, Small Business Mentoring Network of British Columbia (BC) Society. 

Michael Hughes - Owner, NfR Consulting Group: Networking for Results by Building Better Relationships.

Karen Carleton - Senior Training Specialist at SMS Equipment

Coming SOON on THIS TOPIC: 

John Kuypers –  Performance Shift Consulting (Canada)

John Kuypers is a marketing & sales executive, leadership executive coach, consultant, speaker, and facilitator. He is a highly-respected strategist, Organizational Development expert, and the author of four books including, Who’s the Driver Anyway? Making the Shift To A Collaborative Team Culture.

PLUS MANY NEW and RETURNING CONTRIBUTORS!!!

From my personal experience:

What happens to TRUST when PROMISES are not kept?

When we fail to keep our commitments to others we not only weaken our relationship with them today, we weaken the strength placed in OUR VALUE tomorrow. We may still have the personal capacity to succeed, but unfortunately for us, others will remember the disappointment they feel we caused them in the past.

TRUST takes a lifetime to build, yet can be destroyed in a moment. Keep your PROMISES and retain the value others place on your commitment.

Now - here is a special post that we've selected from those received from our friends, respected professionals and experts who are familiar with this subject:

 

Prof David Clutterbuck, David Clutterbuck Partnership (United Kingdom)

David Clutterbuck was one of the very early pioneers of mentoring and coaching. Author of 55 books, a third of them on coaching and mentoring themes, he is visiting professor at both Sheffield Hallam and Oxford Brookes Universities.  David co-founded the European Mentoring and Coaching Council and chairs the International Standards for Mentoring Programs in Employment.

 

Trust in mentoring comes in several forms. Firstly, there’s the trust that comes with confidentiality — knowing that what is said will not be repeated without permission. Second is trust in each other’s goodwill. Third, trust that there are no hidden agendas — neither mentor nor mentee is trying to manipulate the other. Often, too, there is trust by the mentee in the mentor’s judgement — that they can be relied upon to give unbiased, considered guidance based on experience  -- and by the mentor that the mentee can tackle issues in their own way, making their own decisions. Lastly, there is trust that each will do what they say they will.

Each of these forms of trust is mutually dependent. Break one and the others are diminished as well.Trust doesn’t always come easy, but when it is present, it provides the psychological safety in which mentor and mentee can explore deep issues of identify, values and unsolidified ambitions.

Prof David Clutterbuck
David Clutterbuck Partnership
Woodlands, Tollgate, Maidenhead, Berks, UK

Website: www.davidclutterbuckpartnership.com

NEW CONTRIBUTORS:

Maatje Stamp-Vincent - Confidentiality and trust go hand in hand because while it is important to sign off on confidentiality agreements so that everyone understands the ground rules that the relationship is based on... trust is critical to ensuring that both mentor and protege or mentee have a constructive relationship that builds both confidence and capacity.

Executive Director, Small Business Mentoring Network of British Columbia (BC) Society. 

Michael Hughes - Trust is a fundamental factor for success in business and in life. It begins with trust in yourself, expressed through your values, behavior and communication, and extends outward to include trust in others through respect, compassion and humility. Lead with trust, it's your strongest asset. 

Owner, NfR Consulting Group: Networking for Results by Building Better Relationships.

Karen Carleton - Trust is key in a mentorship role because workplace and adult learners need to feel comfortable with each other, and have mutual respect for one another's knowledge, skills and attitudes. Additionally, you need to be able to trust that the other person's behavior is appropriate, admired or well-respected by the organization, colleagues and/or, the field itself. Without trust in each other you cannot build a successful mentoring relationship - something akin to a professional marriage. 

Senior Training Specialist at SMS Equipment

YOUR TURN - Please feel free to share your comments and experiences with respect to this aspect of mentorship.  Also, help us to reach others who could benefit from participating in this discussion. We welcome your 'sharing' this page with those in your circle of contacts!

Questions:

•       What is the role of TRUST within a mentoring relationship?

•       What does TRUST mean to you?

•       How is TRUST developed between the mentoring partners?